While scrolling through Facebook last night, I came across a photo of a heart-shaped arch on fire outside a mall. A bit more snooping revealed it was a decorative installation at the SM City Cebu entrance across APM, and it looked like someone set it on fire.
Now, that might seem like extreme bitterness, but that’s the sort of outburst that people have come to expect from singles on Valentine’s Day. It’s one of the few days in the year that seems to shine the spotlight on your “singleness,” and it’s easy to get caught up in the loneliness, envy and anger at the sight of another woman carrying a bouquet of flowers.
Here’s some news for you: flowers wilt. I’m not saying their relationships will too–but just like how the Valentine gifts everyone received will soon lose its luster, this day will be over. By tomorrow, people will go back to complaining about their significant others, and you can go back to saying you’re happily single–and actually have the conviction to make it sound convincing.
In the meantime, suck it up and stick it out. Here’s a few tips on how:
1. Have a big group lunch with your other unattached friends. There’s safety in numbers, and when you’re with a group of people, you’re less likely to throw food at a couple who spent the last 30 minutes gushing about how perfect they are together. Also, if none of your friends are single, go outside your usual circle and invite acquaintances who are. The failure to hang out with new people might be the reason you’re still single.
2. Buy yourself something nice. No other time does the Miss Independent thing come in handy. Whatever it is, though, make sure it’s something you really want. That way, when you feel sad that you had to get it for yourself, you’ll look at that new bright orange Zara shift dress and think, “who cares? It’s mine and I love it!”
3. Give your mother flowers. Whether she’s to blame for your commitment issues or she’s selling you off to her friends because she wants grandchildren NOW, no one in the world loves you like your mother does. Appreciate that.
4. Keep moving. Go for a run, take a yoga lesson, finally say yes to that friend who’s constantly filling your Facebook timeline with motivational posters convincing you to try Crossfit. To loosely quote Elle Woods: exercise gives you endorphins, endorphins make you happy, and happy people don’t kill the couple making PDA in the corner of the cafe.
5. Marathon. I don’t mean the running kind, I mean the TV one. Binge-watch your favorite shows to catch up on the latest season, or finally start watching the ones you’ve been wanting to see. A season of 24 episodes at 45 minutes each totals to 18 hours–that’s your entire day gone already. Then you can freak out about how you’ve completely wasted the day and yet all you can think about is starting on the next season–but that’s a whole other issue.
6. Pour yourself a glass of red wine. Whatever it is about a bottle of Merlot, a good red is the perfect drink to calm you down. You don’t need the drunken energy Margaritas or vodka is going to give you today–a glass of red is gonna get you to relax. Then one glass is going to turn into four, and you’re going to be all “Valen-WHUT? I’m fine!” before sobbing. Just kidding! Or maybe not, we won’t judge you.
7. Tinder binge. I think the whole appeal to Tinder is feeling in control of the dating scene, which is, of course, such an illusion because that’s one of the most unpredictable experiences in life. But there’s something therapeutic about swiping left, left, left, ooh right, ew left, left, left, left, left. Also, there’s also the slightest chance you could meet someone who’s not a total psycho. (We’ll admit, though, that’s the tiniest chance, and what you’re probably gonna get is an indecent invitation and a request for nude pics at 10 in the morning.)
8. Have dessert. Nothing in life is too bad that chocolate can’t make better. Nothing.
9. Go on a blind date. If you’ve been single for a while, you probably have a ton of friends who are dying to set you up with their cousin, colleague or distant acquaintance. Let them. It might put some pressure on the whole thing, having your first date on V-day, but what the hell? If you really want to feel like you’re part of the holiday, then do it. (Of course, there’s the possibility that your friends have given up on you a long time ago because you’re too picky/you have weird taste in men/you’re actually bats**t crazy. If that’s the case, I know that feels and we should be friends.)
10. Wallow. If you’re feeling beyond depressed about having to spend today alone again, then go ahead and mope. Eat your ice cream, listen to Lana Del Rey’s disenchanted melodies all day, and schedule a sobbing phone call to your best friend for later in the day in which you cry, “what’s wrong with me?” Nothing is, by the way. We’re only human, and emotions like that are better let out than kept in. That’s how you keep yourself from burning down a heart-shaped arch at the mall.
by Shari Quimbo
LADY CYCLISTS HIT THE ROADS AND SLOPES OF CEBU.
Cycling has been a growing sport and hobby for many years but it’s popularity has erupted since the Covid pandemic. People biking to work and for recreation is an everyday sight in Cebu. More and more are joining the ride. Many are quite serious about cycling. I know three ladies who are among those who’ve gone long distances across Cebu.
How did you get into serious cycling? What was your motivation?
Blinky de Leon. Event Host, Product Endorser & Influencer
“ I’ve been into cycling since I was a kid. A little backstory, I was around 10 years old when my dad surprised me with my first custom-made mountain bike. I still keep it until now, in fact I had it refurbished. It’s the most sentimental thing I ever received since it was his way/gesture to catch up with me after not seeing each other for almost 6 yrs. My dad is based in Germany and he also loves cycling and makes his own bamboo bike.”
“Just a year ago though, my friend Gazini randomly, out of nowhere, picked me up from home to bike with her to the South of Cebu. I felt really excited and motivated to get back on track because it’s very nostalgic and brings back so many great memories. And since then, the rest was history. We’ve been joining different groups, tried different routes and conquered different heights. I’ve met so many cyclists with very inspiring stories in the bike community who kept me feeling motivated too. I also look forward to the sights and the adventure that comes along with it.”
Yumz Mariot. Branding & Marketing Consultant
“I used to bike along with rock and wall climbing. I am lousy with ballgames which is why. Our usual route were Talamban and Mactan but one time, managed to ship gears all the way to Dumaguete for a quick ride to Valencia, the next town located at a higher elevation. Those were days when I did it for fun and what bike I was using did not matter.”
“Fast forward to 2021, a year after the pandemic lockdown began, I realized I have been lazy to do any fitness routine. Too caught up on juggling between house chores and Work from Home deliverables (I work as a Branding and Marketing Consultant), I started to feel my body needs to move as much as my brain does. A hysical fitness routine is as important as what I eat, or what I read or watch. So I decided to invest on a decent MTB, just very recently and got myself a much necessary restart. What motivates me even more is the area where I currently reside at. It is vast, fresh, green and safe for solo bikers like me.”
Prime Sarino. Digital Media Creative
“I started biking as a young teenager and I got the idea to start it as an adult hobby 3 years ago. I was already into running and I thought it would be great to venture into another outdoor activity to keep me occupied after work hours and weekends. I was set to travel for a year so I had to put aside the idea first but came pandemic. We were all forced to stay put and everything was put on hold. Cycling became my diversion. My cyclists friends invited me to quick and short rides. I enjoyed my first 50km ride and the sceneries and routes most of all. It also helped channel a positive mindset during the hard hit season of the pandemic. Not to mention it’s also another way to stay fit when we were forced into inactivity during the quarantine.”
Next in Part 2, we ask the ladies about their cycling experiences and memorable moments…
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